EP 201 | Who or What Will Build Your Child’s Foundation? How To Give YOUR Child Worth, Confidence, & Purpose. With NELLIE HARDEN, Author
“That foundation is 3 tiers, that bottom, bigger base is worth…and we need to help them build those internally. They can’t be looking for them on the outside.”
Every child will leave childhood with some kind of foundation. What will your child leave with? We have the incredible opportunity to be the architect of the beginning of their life. As today's guest, Nellie Harden, says: "This life foundation is not built by accident. It takes parents who say YES to being deliberate and intentional in the every day big and small, hard and fun."
Today we're talking about 5 needs our tween and teen daughters have including: Being seen, heard, loved, and feeling belong. All of these are their worth and this is the foundation we as parents must leave our children.
Let's grow,
Jennifer
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HIGHLIGHTS FROM TODAY’S EPISODE!
Everyone leaves childhood with a foundation
What roots are your children laying? What are you laying for them?
All of this leadership training, personal, education we get as adults can be there as children. We can give this to them as their parents.
Our children are tempted to find
They need to know they are seen as a person, heard, their words have worth, their ideas matter, know they’re loved, know they belong somewhere, and they have a purpose
Seen, heard, loved, belong all of these are their worth. They need to know they have these internally.
They have to know they are seen by the Creator. Help them see this
Problems with our teens can go from them not being seen, heard, loved, belong and don’t feel like they have a purpose. So they’re chasing it out there instead of understanding it internally
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We have a different job in the second half of childhood.
Advice to moms saying “what do I do?”
Take a deep breath, it’s going to be okay
Pray about it, journal about it. It’s not too late
But you’re going to have to be vulnerable and show up
I’m all in, let’s do this together
It might be simple, but it won’t be easy, but it will be so worth it
1:1 time with your kids on a weekly basis. This opens the door to things you won’t hear at the table or the living room.
In the 1:1 time, those needs are definitely seen, and definitely heard and you need to have courageous conversations, connect with them through your stories and my stories.
Talk about the why and show them the boundaries and lessons
Help them find some outside accountability
Who do you look up to and why?